How My Mindset Has Changed
As I sit here writing about how my mindset has changed I feel like I am right back where I started. In a state where I am still on furlough and trying to figure out what is best for me. I’ve got to tell you, it is exhausting dealing with the same shit on a different day. Through the last 5 months I have done a lot of work on myself mentally and physically. I had to realize that I need to do what is best for me. And what is best for me is to be a warrior and get back up. Get back up and choose me every day. I need to choose my happiness and work towards my goals. But just because I claimed what my goal was doesn’t mean it is going to happen the next day, or in 5 months. That also doesn’t mean I should quit either.
I have been going to therapy since last year and something I have learned is that I cannot try to control things that are outside of my control. I feel like I have said this before... or maybe I just say it so much to myself and others that I have lost track. I will say though that just because I don’t have something under control doesn’t mean I can’t do anything about it. I control how I react and choose to move forward. Another thing that has stuck with me is knowing what my negative thoughts are. Let me tell you, those thoughts used to overpower my thinking when I came across tough situations. But I have learned through a lot of therapy and confidence content that I need to tell that negative bitch to shut the hell up, no one invited you!
The good thing about today is that there are so many people out there talking about confidence, goals, and having strength to push through tough things going on. Other than my therapist, Serena Kerrigan and Rachel Hollis have been extremely great sources of positivity, motivation, and confidence; inspiring me to be my bad ass self.
If you don’t know who Serena Kerrigan is… please go to Instagram now and look up her account (@serenakerrigan)! She has claimed herself the Queen of Confidence, and that she is. She’s a confidence coach, she started her own dating show, and is continuing to put out amazing content. The way Serena says things about herself is extremely blunt and positive. She posts videos talking about how important it is to not say mean things about yourself. You need to look at yourself in the mirror and talk yourself up! Tell yourself the things you would tell your best friend and always value you. Anytime I have needed a reminder to treat myself like the amazing person I am I always refer back to Serena.
I know I have talked about Rachel Hollis before, so here it is again! She just says things sometimes that really stick with me and she is a huge motivator. Today, I was watching her on Quibi and this week’s topic is about trauma. There are many different kinds. Obviously in my case it’s about losing what I had in a job. The words that really moved me today were, “A warrior stands back up and goes again.” Damn, that hit home. You have to keep going when things don’t go your way. It absolutely sucks and you have every right to sit with those negative feelings to give yourself a break. That also means tomorrow morning, you need to wake up and keep moving forward. So, I am standing back up because I am a warrior.